Me.Friends- -;

Posted by on Feb 22, 2011 in Obituary, Programming | 3 Comments

I lost one of my dearest friends.

My first true peer as a programmer, who shared my surprise in 1999 when we learned that pair programming and refactoring were unconventional to other people.

A true Linchpin who always valued making a difference over being nice.

He continually coached me on developments in my work and private life, being my mirror, offering relentless feedback.

A true pragmatist if ever there was one.

With a hide like a bear and a heart like a mountain, cynical, gruff, yet witty, and honest.

Programming was his true passion. He passed away in front of his computer, code on the screen, while he did what he loved most.

He’ll continue doing it, having angels as customers.

My heart goes out to his spouse and his daughters, who found him yesterday morning, looking fast asleep.

Program in peace, my friend. You met the one, true Change Agent. He’ll have greeted you the pragmatic, the Discworld way:
“THERE’S NO JUSTICE. THERE’S JUST ME.”

No number of Whys will yield an answer.

And now that it’s written down, the realisation sets in, and finally, I can begin to cry..

3 Comments

  1. Soulvy Weber
    February 22, 2011

    My heart goes out to you. I’m a lucky woman. I also have my first and best pair, and there is an intimacy there that rivals, and in some respects exceeds any you find even in marriage or life-long friends. Every day, good code or tough choices, we push away from the work, and give each other that look, “We did that! Good job!”

    Something in us dies at the loss of “that pair”, the one who knows your mind, your strengths and weaknesses. But when you know him that well — you will forever have his voice inside you, cautioning and coaching — and gut feelings, “smells” that have his name on them

    Heed them, he may have gone on around the wheel, but there remains the evidence of his craft and his love.

    — Soulvy

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    • Olaf
      February 22, 2011

      Thank you. This “voice inside you” worked already when he was still alive:-)
      – Olaf

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  2. David Swinson
    March 30, 2011

    So sorry to hear about the loss of your friend.

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